Two years ago I wrote a post about marrying without a parent's blessing, it has spawned a few comments and is my most controversial post.
Many have asked for a Bible verse to back up my post, here it is
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
In my original post I said over and over again that marrying without a parent's blessing is a very serious decision, and one that shouldn't be taken lightly. I think that only a foolish person would abandon the relationship with their parents for some cute girl or guy that they hardly know. But if a young man and woman have done all they can to seek the parent's blessing and the parent is withholding for petty reasons that is when the couple needs to seek counseling. Mom and dad are not perfect, and their kids are not perfect. When it comes to such a complicated thing as love sometimes outside counseling is needed. I don't think a couple should lightly take a parent's rejection of their boyfriend or girlfriend. If a christian couple is honest about wanting to be together for reasons beyond attraction and infatuation then they NEED to seek counseling if objections are brought up.
Love is complicated, and finding the right person is a huge task. I've heard that it takes about 4 years to truly get to know someone, if sexual cravings are the only reason that you have to be with that person you need to take a step back and take a good look at the relationship. Puppy love makes it easy to ignore warning signs of potential problems.
I also just want to add that if a couple pursues marriage and does not take their parents opinion seriously then that young person is foolish. Someone who is serious about the relationship will do things right. A foolish person won't.